Friday, March 19, 2010

Introduction to Down with Dating

For decades both women and men have been told by self-help books, radio talk shows, magazine columns and dating "gurus" on how to act, what to say, what "rules" to follow and what mind games to play in order to land that perfect person; or at least the right person who's gonna be "so much different " than all the other people we've dated in the past. But the fact of the matter is, it's really not that complicated. It shouldn't be. Usually, that first instinct, that first feeling you get as fleeting as it may be, is usually the right one. We don't always want to listen to that feeling, so we try to over compensate in some way in order to prove that initial feeling wrong. Women over-analyze every word, every minutia of their interaction with that person to convince themselves that he really is head over heals with them. Men, will over-analyze in a different way. If the girl seems really into him he might over-analyze by thinking that " she's over eager, probably wants an insta-relationship and might be a 'clinger'." If he's really into her, he might over-analyze and think" if I show her how I feel right now, she might think I'm the dreaded "clinger" so better wait a few days, a week, etc. to contact her again."
Gals: if seems into you, he probably is. If he seems a little nonchalant or formal (almost business-like), then he's prob not. Trust your initial feeling.
Guys: If she seems really into you, unless if she's already making plans for the two of you for next week and the following and the following....she's not gonna be a clinger, she's just happy the date went well. If you're really into her, just f***' call her. Don't count the days before you think it's right time. Just. call. her. She'll love it. I promise.
Like I said: It's not that complicated. 
If you liked what I wrote or want to add your input or share your stories,  let me know! I'd love hear from you.
'Till next time.